yes, what a trivial concept ! Recognition. We give it plentifully to our dogs and other pets and yet only sparingly to our friends and co-workers. Why is that ?
Why can't we see that our wonderful hounds love doing things to make us happy and that in most cases the same is true to other humans we interact with ?
Case in point: I work for a company that is great about recognizing talents and contributions. Yet every store will be different, and for that matter, every manager will be too. After all we are all human.
So lately I have been wondering why it is that my team hasn't been recognized ever for their contributions. I will spare you the details but last month is the month we should have been recognized. We were put in a very difficult situation and not only survived it but indeed excelled. Sadly, not only did we not get what I would feel is deserved kudos, but in fact we even got "put down".
So what do you think happened ? well after I spoke my mind to all involved, I pretty much decided to go. As in I want to move on to another place where I will either get a little pat on the back every now and then or at least where I will feel that what I do matters.
So you may tell me that not every one gets recognition on a regular basis. So true...
what if instead of recognition we called it awareness. I just want those in charge to be aware of my contributions. That way I won't have to feel like I have to go on strike for someone to finally realize how much I do.
Funny how I should say that about work when my other job is one where recognition is also in short supply and awareness probably will never exist: that's right, I am a MOM !
So tell me: could the fact that I am a mom -tough work and never recognized as one of the toughest jobs on Earth - could that make me want more recognition at work ? I do wonder. I would definitely love to hear what other moms have to say about that ?
Is that why we may be labeled high-maintenance or difficult ?
Of course, as any mom could tell you, practically no man would be able to hold down a job while juggling two kids schedules, household chores, the possibility of having to take days off because of a sick child - or the guilt of not wanting or being able to do so. But that's beside the point. And yes some men do go through those same struggles. But not as many as women I think.
I will end with this one piece of advice: why don't you treat your friends, co-workers and family as you do your pet: a hug for a job well done, a treat every now and then when they follow directions and a "that's a good boy / girl" when they go above and beyond your expectations. You may even find that in return you will get what your pet gives you: pride, a sense of well-being and excitement about a job well done. Who knows what else this will start ?